if i haven’t felt so much for him, i won’t feel so uptight, fidgety and disappointed. just a line from him, a tone of voice, a hesitation to my request !! enough to make me go right into the boiler burning. voices in my mind started shouting, “he cares more about himself than you!” “you are the silly one who does so many things for him!” “purely your own one-sided attachment!” … i told him i dont want to work on relationship. See! this is what happens! the more you are attached to a person, the more your whole life and emotions are manoeurved by the moods and whims of that person. unstability of feelings is a state of suffering...!
So, a wise thing to do, is to do nothing. Just paying attention, and then DO NOTHING ! Get back to your own stuff. What arises will pass away. Contemplate on the suffering of this instability of the emotions, the uncontrollability… SIGH.
then another softer voice says: but he is really focussed on what he is doing. you know that is his priority. he takes work very seriously. could you understand his priorities? and accept that’s his way of dealing with interruption?
"but this may not be true !" and there really has a need for space. just like you. you already know he doesn’t have much space and privacy of his own. he's forced to do things which he might not feel like doing actually...
"i can’t hear this."
and other voices fight to be heard: (the cynical, low self-esteem) i shouldn’t have done dat. maybe it is not legitimate for me to. i am not so significant enough to be granted wat i want from him. but you know he has never thought of you as a troublesome nuisance to be around with. you already know that. and you know that if ever he needs to enforce limits, boundaries, rules.. that’s his way of managing his work. it is as objective as can be, and nothing personal against you.
HE: hi SHE: hello khup divsanni HE: ya office madhe orkut restrict kelay SHE: so how r things at ur end? oh HE: fn and u? SHE: fine. too hectic. lil tired.. HE: u wl have a long break in this mango season rt? SHE: not really...generally before monsoon there is a rush on our site to complete the work...so its gonna more hectic monsoon goes lil slow HE: hmmnn....so busy....we all do not have work only....recession has affected tremendously to our industry all r on gas SHE: yeah diff fields r affected on diff level *levels actually amche projects mostly shifting or make shift arrangement wale aahet sadhya...people r spending money to reduce their expenditure HE: agreed its gd na that u r not affected....my wifes wing is being closed....lot of tension....but u see we have to face it SHE: yeah...but running around for lesser fees is not affordable...office expenses kami nahi hot na tyane. anyway...u've to face it is the bottom line HE: hmmnnn thats true....but when u r entrepeunor then these things r anticipated ya mag baki kay...hows amal and minal? SHE: both r good. amalchi masti an dhadpad chaluch aahe hey wats ur kids name? HE: :) SHE: kay zala? HE: Tanisha....I bet tichi masti dhoodgos and dhadpad jasta aahe....we r really tired running after her SHE: nice name HE: Hmmnnn...my wife choose it....I was for "Kimaya"...but as usual she never listens to me SHE: :) so many complains u 've for her !! HE: Facts r not complaints I like and luv her but facts remain unchanged DC??? SHE: dint recieve ur messages HE: hi...got disconnected SHE: n no got them all together maybe some network problem HE: ya SHE: mag aaj kay karnar kaam nasel tar? HE: so everybody may nt like you....and morever ur hubby may also hv sm factual complaint rt? today I m workin fm home so chatting fm personal PC SHE: yeah he might have. never told me till now. ok HE: We dont dare to tell these to wives SHE: my god...tu tar husband X wife teams karun taklelya distahet HE: those r already created....I m only a team player SHE: hmm then its lil diff in our case...generally we work together as a single team...so we have less factual complains as we keep sortng them out on regular basis :) HE: Dont mix personal with proffession....nd its really pleasure to hear that u r different only I should hear that from minal too SHE: :) sure HE: so tu evda vel chat kartes....doesnt it affect ur work....u dont report to anybody I understand SHE: ? dint get u aapn kiti taas bolto aahot re ? HE: I meant there may be other friends like me....so how can u spare so much time in this hectic schedule?....I meant that U r only the boss so it may be possible SHE: tevhda vel tar me office madhe hi konashi na konashi bolte...productivity is not related to man hours of work put in...i hope u undrstand wat i mean HE: gr8 multitasking women....ya I do understand SHE: am sorry to say but there is no online friends like u... HE: I belive u....but y r u sorry for that?....u can have if u wish too SHE: me tujha kay ghoda marlay ka? y r u gettgin so personal about things? am sure y ur wife is not happy with u !! wish u happy life togther... HE: Hey Y r u geeting annoyed....jus asked casually....I like chatting with u....but was worried that I may b disturbing so I asked....SORRY HE: I will rectify you....my wife is very much happy with me.....and even I m....a couple of differences cannot create permanant rift or dislike SHE: am failing to understand the whole thing now !!! am very sorry dat i said dat..i've no right to say such things...but i dint understand y the hell did u say dat all..? wat do u think of me? HE: Females r complex but they do not understand complex things thats all I can say :) SHE: i dont think we r so close dat we can pass such comments for each otehr...me chating karen kinva nahi ani te karunahi maza kaam sampven kinva nahi...wat do u have to do with this? forget it !! HE: Forgot ....now cool pls....I didnt think u r so short tempered SHE: whatever. just forget it n leave me alone. if u think females r so dumb...y do u go n approch them? u should find some good inttelectual company in ur own male community rihgt? HE: Its already there....but I m also expanding with some exceptions from other community....I had searched one...but it seems that I will soon loose her HE: Wtever might be at least say byee before leaving.....neways sorry againg if I have raised ur tempo byee SHE: its not a question of just saying by. the thing is dat am not used to this male-female grouping...thankfully aajparyanta mala me female aslyachi janeev konich itkya teevrateni karun navhati dili..so i got annoyed...kam kartanna kinva gappa martanna hya goshti madhe yeu nayet asa mala personally vatta pan u have all the freedom to think anyway thanks for bringing the reality so clearly in front of me !!! bye n wish u best luck !! HE: On elast comment...Belive me I do not think that such conversation should have been taken so seriously....I cassually passed some remarks for the sake of communication...may be I was rong....I can now realize that there may be cretain sensative areas wherein you shoudnt touch....I do hold respect for females.....and lastly wish you the same
Randy Pausch was a Professor of Computer Science, Human-Computer Interaction, and Design at Carnegie Mellon University (CMU) in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. In September 2006, Pausch was diagnosed with metastatic pancreatic cancer. Pausch delivered his "Last Lecture," titled "Really Achieving Your Childhood Dreams," at CMU on September 18, 2007.
Randy's message is about following your dreams, dealing with the ones that don't come true and having fun along the way. His talk has been viewed by more than 6 million people. He's a co-author of a best-selling book and has testified before Congress about pancreatic cancer, a disease that kills 33,000 Americans each year. He says the lessons were meant as a "message in a bottle" for his kids. so making it available here as it isn't too late to listen, learn and really live.
Randy Pausch died on July 25, 2008. But in his process, he teached millions of people about living. That's what i want to share with you.
बसलो असता निवांत रात्री, टकटक झाली दारावरती दार उघडता आत सरकली, कोणी व्यक्ती बारिकतेने बघता कळले, हुबेहुब ती प्रतिमा माझी दुसरी होती घाबरलो मी, चाचरलो मी, पुसले त्याला, कोण कशाला स्मित संभावित करुनि म्हणे तो, पिशाच्च मी तव गतकाळाच्या थडग्यामधला निवास कोंदट असह्य झाला, म्हणुनी आलो पिशाच्च, पण ते माझे होते, आपुलकीने स्वागत केले, गप्पा झाल्या दुरपणाचे अंतर सरले, आठवणींचे पर्व चाळता काळिज कढले बाद-बखेडे कधी पेटता, कृद्ध शार्दुलासम गुरगुरलो प्रेम द्वेष हास्यांत रंगता स्वरही चढले अखेर होता पहात, गेला एक आमुच्यामधला निघुनी गेला कोण अन् कोण राहिला हे मज आता जन्मभराचे कोडे पडले...
मी काही नियमितपणे सिनेमांची परिक्षणं लिहित नाही. पण काही सिनेमे तुम्हाला मुळातुनच हलवून सोडतात. अनुराग कश्यप यांचा गुलाल असाच एक सिनेमा.
राजकारणाचं भयाण रुप आता आपल्यासाठी काही नवं नाही. आणि college politicsही काही लहानसहान बाब नाही राहिलेली आजकाल. स्त्रियाही यात कुठे मागे राहिलेल्या नाहीत. मुलींना आपण मुलगी असण्याचे फायदे कसे उठवायचे हे काही वेगळं शिकावं लागत नाही. उपजतंच हे ज्ञान देव त्यांना देतो बहुधा. खेकड्यांच्या ह्या स्पर्धेत एकदुसर्याची शिडी करुन वर चढत जाणं हेच अंतिम सत्य. मनापासुन कोणावर प्रेम कराव आणि नंतर लक्षात यावं की आपण वापरले गेलो आहोत. प्रेम मोठं की सत्ता मोठी?
साधी पण निरुत्तर करणारी कथा.
apt music, very modern still with folk touch and matured lyrics. sure its a must see movie. this movie renders the viewers speechless !!!